So, here’s the deal: being neurodivergent seems to be a common connection with others within the BDSM community. Now, having ADHD doesn’t automatically mean you’re into BDSM, and being into BDSM doesn’t mean you have ADHD. These two things are separate, but we still see so many that fit in this connection. Why is that?
Why ADHD?
People with ADHD have trouble with attention, being impulsive, and being hyperactive. But that doesn’t mean they’re automatically drawn to the BDSM scene. However, there are certain aspects of ADHD that might coincide with elements of BDSM. For example, people with ADHD tend to seek out new and exciting experiences. They can also be impulsive, which might make them more likely to explore alternative lifestyles, like BDSM, which can be intense and thrilling. Becoming a Domme or sub both have their fulfilling areas that tickle those dopamine receptors to make us excited.
Why BDSM?
A big thing is that ADHD often is borne from some sort of trauma, mine was in my childhood, and it can make it hard for people to control themselves and make decisions about daily life. BDSM, on the other hand, has clear rules and boundaries, with a focus on consent and power dynamics that are negotiated. So, for someone with ADHD, the structured nature of BDSM might be appealing. It can give them a sense of control and clarity in a world where they struggle with impulsivity and decision-making. It also allows for a sense of control in a way they had never experienced before, enabling them to negotiate the trauma they have and even sometimes overcoming it.
What other factors play in?
Other factors may play in to someone’s desire to play in the BDSM world, such as being in charge all the time in their daily life and wanting to feel the release of submission or testing one’s own limits. Remember, not everyone with ADHD is into BDSM, and not everyone in the BDSM community has ADHD. There are many factors that influence a person’s interests and preferences, like their upbringing, social environment, and personal experiences. It’s important to recognize that both the ADHD and BDSM communities are diverse and varied.
Correlation, not causation…
To sum it up, while there might be connections between ADHD and being involved in the BDSM community, it’s important to approach this correlation with an open mind. ADHD doesn’t define a person’s sexual interests, and being into BDSM doesn’t mean you have ADHD. The relationship is complex and influenced by many different factors. More research into your own self would be helpful to better understand these potential connections in your own life. You may want to read my blog BDSM Subspace to get a deeper understanding of why someone would chose this lifestyle.
Until next time, Divine Goddess EveB
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